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Why I Want OBEY In My Vows



Having the word obey in my vows was never something I really thought about until recently while trying to pick our wedding vows.

Andrew mentioned he wanted obey in them and at first I wasn't too into the idea.

A little back story for that, as a teen, the LAST thing I wanted to do was to have to obey any guy I was with, that sounded like TORTURE.

Growing up in a very traditional Christian family and church though, that was taught (although not super heavily enforced in my house, both my parents worked together). I watched a lot of families who did enforce it and I didn't like how it looked from the way they did it in their households, it looked to me as if the women was basically a slave and I didn't see much love in it. The guy just did whatever he wanted and that was that, she went along.

It in the Bible talks about women being a helpmeet for her husband and things like that and submitting to him and I really didn't like that idea as a teen, I actually remember saying I would rather be single my whole life,

When I started dating Andrew though, I realized that was changing, I feel like he always has my best interest at heart and really wants to be sure I am happy and all my needs are well met.

I honestly feel like I could step back and let him make decisions and it would be ok.

In turn I have found I am actually wanting to do things to 'serve' and please him, such as traditionally 'woman' things like laundry, cooking, cleaning for him. I have actually had people be like oh no HE needs to help, but I don't really want him to need to, if I genuinely needed help I know he would try his best, but I want to do it.

I wanna make sure he is happy and well taken care of and I feel like when he takes my feelings into consideration and makes sure my needs are meet I can do that.

If he was just trying to be bossy and controlling I don't think my response would be anywhere close to that, but he isn't, he genuinely cares how I feel about stuff and tries to make me happy.

So that is why I actually want to do what he'd like and include obey because as long as he continues to be so caring with me, I want to be subservient and let him 'be the man'.

Never thought I'd say those words....
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