Having the word obey in my vows was never something I really thought about until recently while trying to pick our wedding vows. Andrew mentioned he wanted obey in them and at first I wasn't too into the idea. A little back story for that, as a teen, the LAST thing I wanted to do was to have to obey any guy I was with, that sounded like TORTURE. Growing up in a very traditional Christian family and church though, that was taught (although not super heavily enforced in my house, both my parents worked together). I watched a lot of families who did enforce it and I didn't like how it looked from the way they did it in their households, it looked to me as if the women was basically a slave and I didn't see much love in it. The guy just did whatever he wanted and that was that, she went along. It in the Bible talks about women being a helpmeet for her husband and things like that and submitting to him and I really didn't like that idea as a teen, I ...